I could be Captain Obvious and say something like, “Well, I haven’t posted in a week…” But you’ve probably picked up on that. And if you haven’t, then you probably don’t care. Either way, it’s cool. Let me break down this week for you real simple…the shit done hit the fan.
And what could I possibly mean by that? Think attack, lying, being betrayed by someone I trusted, and being called things I’ve never been called before. Oh yeah, and there was something mentioned about not being wanted back next year. Holy…mother…of…God… Talk about being completely blindsided! Now I am most certainly not perfect, but I think I’ve handled an awful situation and made it something positive. So how does one handle when things suddenly go really wrong?
1) Cry…by yourself. Whether it’s from shock or anger or hurt, dude, just let it out. Scream, cry, shout, punch the crap out of a punching bag, but don’t hold it in. And try not to let it out in front of the people who have hurt you. You gotta clean out the wound and accept that it happened. Pretending you’re fine or not upset won’t help anyone, especially not you.
2) Okay, now don’t be by yourself. Call/text/FaceTime a trusted friend, someone who can listen and understand or just be compassionate. This is like putting a bandaid on a wound after cleaning it up. It’s completely doubtful that you’re as awful as some people would have you believe. You need someone to help ground you and see the situation a little more clearly.
3) When everyone says (because most everyone will), “Everything happens for a reason,” believe it. It is the God’s honest truth. When shit happens, as it will because that’s life, it must mean that there’s something we need to learn from the situation. Also (and I’m about to get all spiritual here, brace yourself), we’re not promised perfect lives if we pray and meditate and act like good people. What we are promised, though, is that we are not alone and will be given the strength to get through it.
4) Learn the something that you were meant to learn. Look at what happened, and see where things went wrong. Did you trust someone you knew you shouldn’t? Did you miss certain warning signs? Look at it, accept it, learn from it, and move on.
5) Look at the good. One shitty week/month/year does not make your whole life bad. As a matter of fact, once I had talked to a friend, I felt relieved. Life is good. One of the great things about this week is that my friends and family really stepped up to be supportive. Plus, a little old school Sinatra helps make life a little rosier…
6) Be grateful. When things first went down, I felt like I was going to barf…like literally. I couldn’t sleep, I spent a few days not really eating, And then it occurred to me, I was honest-to-God grateful it had happened. I had no questions left about this situation, I was finally able to see it all completely clearly. I had ignored my gut, but in the end, my gut was right. I had been unsure about what to do, but it all suddenly became so clear. This is a beautiful opportunity to remove myself from a toxic situation. Thank you Jesus!
7) Don’t dwell. As one of the members of my support system wisely said, “It’s done now. Put it in a box, and put it away. What else can they do to you?!” When you’re too busy looking and moving forward, it’s not so easy to look back. And don’t forget to stay classy. Attacking back is not moving on.
Hopefully, your week went a little bit better, but if not, I at least hope that this can help you out just a little. And if not, there’s always puppy kisses…
Have a great rest of the day everyone! Much love to you all!